There would never be a place that is good for everybody.
I always look at people on Tumblr with respect. On whatever sorts they come—rebloggers, GIF makers, artwork savvy, hardcore bloggers, typographists, photographers, even those who are emotional, humorous, twitterish, haters, bullies, bashers, and all the categories that might as well fit— I look at every blogger with admiration.
It is not an easy task to maintain a blog. It is like making your home ready for visitors at any time of the day, serving not the same drink and snacks, giving not the usual monotonous entertainment, and offering something better than the best all the time. It is a hard task to make people visit you, and it is even much harder to keep them coming. Everyone is thus not having a walk in the park here.
As we delve more into this community where everything seemed boundless yet limited at the same time, we get to be affected by the ways and means of Tumblr. Indeed, as it is applicable to real-life community where we are honed based on the upbringings of our society, this blogosphere has also somewhat affected, at the very least, our Internet self. What we see from the forerunners of the site, we try to imitate. Whether it is to go with the trend, to have the swag, or to just basically belong, we are forced to go on with how life works here. No matter how we convince people by shouting out that this is our blogs and we have the sole power over it, at the back of our minds, we somehow want to do what most people do, just so we could be part of this grand circle.
Fame has always been an issue here. While the primary purpose of blogging is to express ourselves, here, we stagger in search for fame. We vie for the most number of followers and notes. Even those who are famous now, for sure, most likely, they’ve been through this process. Yes, we might still fight back that we aren’t really after the posts and follow backs, but deep inside, we know we are. Some of us are just wise enough not to embrace what is as shallow as this.
Those who are up in the clouds of fame are either blinded by the thick clouds of glory or overwhelmed by how high they are. Practically, there are no concrete standards as to whether someone here is famous or not, but of course, when we talk about Tumblr fame, there are names that we remember. That in itself is fame. These are the people who are followed by everybody and whose posts are liked by everyone no matter how profane or nonsensical their they are. Although there are definitely famous bloggers who have a lot to say, there are famous bloggers whose posts are not liked because of the content but because they are the ones who posted it.
And yes, unfortunately, some of them are too blinded by the spotlight. Supposedly, they are the ones who are expected to welcome the newcomers and rescue those who are bullied, but nothing like those really happen. When newbies come, those who are in the grass roots of this society are the ones who welcome them, and the famous are up there, not really minding whenever these newbies follow them. Honestly, some, if not all, are not becoming really welcoming. Others would say a few words to a newcomer, where the latter would be lucky if s/he gets more than a one-word reply, but then, don’t expect them to follow you back or even check your page. You might as well be expecting rain in the desert. If you stepped on the wrong side of the way and you end up being bashed by bloggers for what you have posted, don’t expect them to tell their unfathomable followers to give you a chance. They might even be the ones to personally take that chance away from you.
The thing is, the famous can be kind, yes, but not as welcoming as they could be if only they would want to. Many of us would notice, for instance, that, during meetups, they would talk to us if we approach them, but usually, they wouldn’t be the one to start the conversation. Their circle is just for them; you can take a peak, but no one would be welcoming you to come in.
Now, Tumblr is not one big circle. It is a room full of little circles. We are creating acquaintances, but we fail to make a bond among each other. Newcomers would be even unluckier, as they will just be forming dots instead of circles, nothing but themselves to savor the moment with, until they find other dots that could help them form their own circle, which will be hard because most of the dots are trying too hard to get into those high-walled circles instead of making their own.
This, unfortunately, might go on forever.
We couldn’t change that. We will forever be in this clash of giant boulders, that is, between the famous ones who keep their doors closed with all their might and the non-famous ones who exert too much effort to enter the circle of fame. And yet, there is no one to blame but ourselves, whichever shoes we fill in this community. This is a system that has become contagious, and there is a slim chance of fighting back.
If only we would treat each other with equality, everybody would be as famous as everyone else, each star shining with their own light.
If only we would be selfless in giving everybody a chance to be part of the circle, no one will go astray (not necessarily taking away the right to have your own set of friends though).
If only we will see every effort not as if they are feeling close, no one will be left out.
If only we will help each other when we make mistakes instead of making fun of the faults or, worse, bashing the doer, we will all learn in the process.
If only we would welcome everybody to be a part of something special, we will all be special in our own ways.
If only we would give importance to those who walk into our lives, we would be famous by heart and attitude.
If only we would help each other in climbing up the pedestal instead of working selfishly on our own just because we know we can manage it, everyone would get to see the breathtaking view from up above.
Maybe, just maybe, there is still time. You don’t have to follow back everybody who follows you right away or change all your individuality in blogging. You don’t have to change your standards in which blogs to follow because it is your freedom. You don’t have to forget the small circles that you have established through thick and thin. You don’t have to throw away what fame you enjoy now. You may just start by welcoming anyone who knocks your door wholeheartedly. It could be a good start.
We all agree that Tumblr is the awesomest site, right? Let’s live up to that. Let’s make this one good place to stay for everyone.
As always, it is not too late.