My co-fellow in this seminar asked, why would we settle for someone if we know that it would not last? Why go for someone if you know you would most likely not end up together.
For me, you don’t really have to think about these things in the first place. Sure, you could get cautious, but you will know if your speculations are true only until you try. Sure, you could spare yourself from yet another pain, but isn’t love about taking risk? Isn’t love about enjoying the here and now and not problematizing what is to come? In fact, your overthinking may even affect your budding relationship. It is the reason why it didn’t work, because you are too busy thinking things too much that you forgot to live at the moment. You realize it only when it’s over.
Maybe, just maybe, love is all about guts. If it worked, great. If it didn’t learn and try again. It’s that cycle until your awaited moment, and you would never reach that anticipated moment of finding the right person if you get too cautious to even try. So go ahead. It is always worth a shot.